To The Women Who Have Been Told They’re ‘Too Much’

It takes a special woman to understand the feeling of being told you’re “too much.”

Having a strong personality comes with its own set of challenges, whether it is in the dating world, at family gatherings, or at work.  Interestingly enough, it even poses challenges in the comments section of websites, due to wit, sarcasm, and interest in debate of these people which outsmarts most individuals.

If you are anything like me, meaning you have a strong personality, you have probably had many good dates fail to text you back and stay in touch, as your life confuses them.  While you cannot help it but take it personally, turns out this should be regarded as a compliment.  Being different is a good thing.

 I want to be different.  I don’t want to be like everyone else. 

Being “too much” indeed scares off people.  A few years ago, I went on a date with a cute guy.  On our second date, he took me to a dinner, only to tell me that I am “too much” for him.  He was right about it though: I was really too much for him.

I used to try to change my personality and desperately tried to act more mainstream.  However, it never worked.  If you are looking for an ordinary girl, I am probably not what you are looking for.  I have always refused to follow the crowd and I have a strong opinion about pretty much everything.

The bottom line is that being different is not a bad thing! It means breaking new grounds in aspects that the world sees as irrelevant.  Being different is like being a free bird as opposed to a world of caged birds.

It is freeing the mind from what the society imposes on is.  It is constantly looking for your identity and figuring out who you truly are.  It is refusing to compare yourself to others, and being your true self instead.  It is having the confidence to admit that you matter and to understand that trying to think or act like someone else is a recipe for failure.

Being different means being unique.  Being different or being “ too much” stands for individuality. It means that we all have our mannerisms, characteristics, and skills.  It is our individuality.

“Each person is born with a unique individuality, and each person has a destiny of his or her own. Imitation is crime, it is criminal. If you try to become a Buddha, you may look like Buddha, you may walk like him, you may talk like him, but you will miss. You will miss all that life was ready to deliver to you. Buddha happens only once. It is not in the nature of things to repeat. Existence is so creative that it never repeats anything. You cannot find another human being in the present, in the past, or in the future who is going to resemble you exactly. It has never happened. The human being is not a mechanism like Ford cars on an assembly line. Never imitate anybody…” –The Book of Understanding

So, having a strong personality or “being too much” is not a bad thing. It is a blessing!  Embrace it and shine bright!

Sources:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/kristin-fehrman/2018/01/to-the-women-who-have-been-told-theyre-too-much/

https://www.insbright.com/being-different-good-bad/