Why We Struggle To Let Go of Certain People We Know Are Bad For Us

True love doesn’t know of distance or time! As explained by Kahlil Gibran, “It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity, and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.”

This is the reason why with certain people,  no matter how much our head tells us to let go, our heart refuses to move on.  Whether we are willing to admit it or not, we all seek a meaningful and intimate connection.

Like drug, we will always long for the sensational highs that come with a deep sense of connection.  Regardless of whether it is mutual love or not, it someone manages to evoke genuine feelings, it can be quite hard to move on without that person playing an important part in our lives.

While this can seem tragic, for some people it means that they put themselves in a position in which they could be taken advantage of or treated poorly.

For others, however, it is an experience that teaches them many lessons, and when there is a point of detachment, the heart keeps on stretching, growing, learning and loving.

When we are in this kind of situation, we might tell ourselves to let go and move on. However, it turns out that spending too much energy on letting to actually creates a stronger magnetism to that person.

The key to letting anything go lies in surrendering to what is.  It is crucial to understand what is ad accept the current circumstances.

“When we stop struggling, we float. It is law.” ~ Unknown

As odd as it seems, many of us tend to grasp to people we know are bad for us, people who cause trauma and pain.  Yet, we are there, unable to figure out why we want them.

Loving unconditionally is one of the most beautiful conditions of the human heart.  In spite of how often we speak of it, it is still a very rare occurrence. This is one of the reasons why it is so addictive when it is found.

Unconditional love isn’t a choice that one makes. It simply is, or it isn’t.  It can be both pleasant and pleasant, so when once finds it, it can feel like either a blessing or a curse. Still, it is important to accept it if we are to lead a peaceful life, since the nature of unconditional love is that it will always continue to exist with forgiveness and tenderness lying within.

As for letting go, there is no need to worry our minds with the “hows” and “whys” of letting go of anyone. What we need to do is to remind ourselves that love requires freedom and it cannot be trapped.  The key lies in continuing to love in spite of the circumstances.

The notion of letting go is an illusion.  We don’t need to let anyone go, as we are not holding on to anything touchable. We need to love and accept the other person as they are without expectations or demands.

Sources:

http://ewao.com/2018/01/04/this-is-why-we-struggle-to-let-go-of-certain-people-we-know-are-bad-for-us/

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/10/why-we-struggle-so-much-to-let-go-of-certain-people/