When you have been single for quite a long time, it does take the effort to convince yourself to go on a date. The truth is that you become inert. You might approve of attractive people, but you certainly will not bother to make plans with them. You do like them, but this is not enough for you to get dressed, make dinner, or make movie plans with them. Honestly, the idea of love and devotion is frightening after being alone for a large gap of time. Holding hands, teasing each other, kissing, and going out on dates aren’t on your timetable. You are actually a little bit worried you are going to ruin them all in one way or another.
When you have been single for quite a long time, you become disappointed about virtually everything. Each time you find a person you have a great connection with, you are hopeful that it will lead to a good relationship, but your expectations are relatively low. You believe that you will end up disappointed, the person lying to you for months and then dropping you like a fly.
When you have been single for a long time, it seems like everyone around is playing a matchmaker. They are constantly trying to set you up and asking you if you have met someone, despite the fact that the answer is always the same! Hanging out with couples becomes exhausting, as all they do is talk about their relationship. But, hanging out with single people is as bad too, given that all they do is look for attractive people for a hook up. So, you don’t care about dating that much, as grabbing a pizza and talking about something else becomes your thing.
When you have been single for a long time, you cannot help it but wonder whether you are going to be alone for the rest of your life. But honestly, the thought of this isn’t as intimidating as it once was. You have accepted the idea of never having a Valentine and planning a wedding. You have become okay with the idea of never getting a house and raising a child. You come to terms with this and decide that this wouldn’t be the end of the world. You have been doing okay so far, so what difference would a couple of years more make?
When you have been single for a long time, you have plenty of time for yourself. Time to improve, better yourself, advance your career and set your priorities straight. Time to meet new people, choose who you want in life, and have the freedom to do whatever you want.
Bottom line is, people who intentionally remain single choose to do so not because this is much easier than finding a partner, rather because the enjoyment of freedom is much better. They are focused on other things that are far more significant than landing a partner.