Have you ever noticed how most of the things you need to do revolve around the word “self’? Being self-focused doesn’t rule out being other-focused. In fact, you need to ne both in order to be a balanced and healthy individual.
Unfortunately, most people spend their time taking care of others, losing their ground focusing on them. This doesn’t mean that you need to be self-absorbed, self-centered, arrogant, or narcissistic, but it means that you need to take care of yourself and focus on your needs and wants.
To be fully self-focused means understanding yourself and staying in touch with you inner self and the things that bring you pleasure and pain. Focusing on yourself means facing things like the following:
- My life is a living hell!
- I am willing to change but I do not really know how.
- My life is out of control!
- Most of my friends like me for the things I do for them.
- I want a divorce.
- I am willing to take risks, but afraid of failure at the same time.
- I do not like myself.
- I know that I am supposed to love my husband/ child/ father, but I often do not/
- I hate salads although I eat one every day.
- I am so tired although I have not done much today.
- I am depressed.
- I am afraid of commitment.
- I have so many regrets.
- I am scared of being dislike or failing.
1. Don’t waste time waiting for people to care
Don’t waste time waiting for people to care about you or waiting for them to care about things you have done or said. If you are completely positive that they are familiar with your latest achievement, leave them to bring it up. Regardless of the outcome, you will at least be sure that their praise will be true.
2. Accept that the majority of people in the world don’t truly care about you
People treat you well because they like you or out of custom, but not all of them really care about you! The truth is- how could they care about you? Unless a person knows you well, it is extremely difficult or even impossible for them to honestly care about you and your feelings. Therefore, there is no way a person will care indeed care about you after the very first meeting.
3. Accept that ultimately, you’re the only one you can 100% rely on for personal happiness
Even if you have great friends, family, and other people who make you happy, the truth is that they will not be there for you endlessly. You never know how the condition might change to make it difficult for them to make you happy as they did. This is one of the reasons why each person has to learn to make themselves happy and feel good in their own skin.
4. Don’t value the perspectives of other people more than your on viewpoints
Even though receiving other people`s suggestions is a good thing, taking all of the advice as it is could be quite unwise. Giving more weight to piece of advice coming from professionals is okay, but you are the only one who will deal with your actions in life. Therefore, you should value your perspectives and viewpoints more than the ones of your friends or family.