I Am Never Going To Be Friends With Someone Who Broke My Heart

I would really love to keep texting you and keep spending more time with you.  I would love to forget about the past and act like everything is normal and completely okay.

Unfortunately, I will no longer call you. I will not be able to do this while wondering who is with you at the moment.  I will not be able to like your photos without checking on the person with you.  I will never be able to have a dinner with you without feeling the sexual tension between us.

It is impossible to be friends with you; the person I kissed, the person I shared my bed with you, the person I used to make future plans with… You used to be my friend back then, you used to text me every morning and made me laugh, but things are different now. When you decided to put an end to our relationship, you ended our friendship at the same time.

I am deleting you from my contact lit and from all social media pages.  I will do my best to erase every possible trace of you, without feeling guilty about it at all.  The truth is, I do want to cut you out of my life for good! Why? Because I am pissed. I am pissed because we failed. I am pissed because you screw me over.  Most importantly, I am pissed because I let you to hurt me for believing that you are not capable of doing such a thing.  But, maybe that is okay.

Maybe it is okay that I am not interested in reading the texts you send to me after you come home from a date. Maybe it is okay to refuse to be the one you flirt with when you are bored.  Maybe it is okay that I don’t want to be the one you sleep with after you have had a tough day. After all, maybe it is more than okay that I am choosing to remove you from my life for good!

Maybe I am immature and bitter. But, maybe I am just smart enough to refuse to put up with you and your bullshit.  You sucked at being a boyfriend, so I really doubt that being a good friend is your thing.

Bottom line is that staying friends with an ex is definitely a bad idea. As online dating coach Erika Ettin, founder of A Little Nudge says, “If you always have one foot in the ex door, how can you be open to someone new?” After certain period of time apart, you need to think about why you might want to stay friends with someone who broke you heart.  “Do they see qualities that add to their life, or is it because they’re lonely and they don’t want to be alone?”  The chances are it is the latter!