“Only those who care about you can hear when you are quiet,” a wise philosopher once said. Most people can do simple things like choosing dinner and deciding which movie to watch without needing to expand much energy. However, even the easiest things like these are difficult for introverts. In fact, it has been scientifically shown that introvert` s brain is wired in a different way compared to the brain of an extrovert.
According to Hans Eysenck, a German psychologist, introverts have a high cortisol arousal, which makes them able to process more information per second than extroverts. This also means that environments and situations with more stimuli make it difficult for them to think right. Specifically, positron emission tomography (PET) scans show that introverts have more blood flowing in the frontal lobes and anterior thalamus, areas which are used for problem solving, making plans, and recalling events.
With this being said, it is no wonder that few humans posses these characteristics which are needed to become good friends with an introvert. Introvert`s friend has to be able to challenge them and engage them in constant thinking about various topics at once. It can be very hard for an introvert to focus their brainpower among others, so they often feel more comfortable spending time alone and in peace.
Still, introverts are deep individuals, so being a friend with them is worth any sacrifices you will have to make along the way, in regard to making allowances for their unusual personality traits. Note that introverts have to adapt their thoughts, actions, and words so that extroverts can understand them. Luckily, introverts are great at this, as science confirms that the best teams are the ones made up of both extroverts and introverts. For example, Facebook is supervised by Mark Zuckerberg and Sheryl Sandberg and Apple is run by Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak.
Furthermore, Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Warren Buffett, Albert Einstein and Bill Gates are all both eminent and successful when it comes to their chosen quests, and they are also all introverts. Introverts tend to put boundaries on the things they reveal, they always over-analyze situations they were into or decisions they have made, and they always prefer spending time alone instead of group outings. They think and connect all the dots, linking both past and present experiences more than extroverts do. So, if you are okay with a friend who tends to over-analyze things and think too much, then you will not have to think as much when you are around them. After all, if you do care about them enough, you can hear even when they are quiet and accept them for who they are.