This Is What Being Faithful Means Because It’s More Than Not Sleeping Around

Most people assume that to be faithful means to refrain from engaging in sexual relations with anyone other than your partner.  The truth is that being faithful means far more than only having sexual relations with your partner, kissing them, caressing their hair, and touching them in more than a friendly manner. Being faithful means that you have deleted all dating apps and profiles; not because your partner had asked you to do so or because you feel obliged, but simply because you feel that it is the right thing to do and that there is no reason to keep them.  It would be much better if more people associated being faithful with words like devoted and dedicated after all.

Being faithful should mean refraining from flirting with anyone other than your significant one, and it should mean putting an end to any occasional flirting.  Refusing to accept phone numbers from others is not enough though; you need to make it clear that you are not interested and already spoken for.  Needless to say, it is quite tempting to ignore the fact that someone other than your partner likes you, but as long as the faithfulness is genuine these selfish thoughts shouldn’t be any problem.  Even more, attempting to make it seem like you are single when you are not is considered a betrayal, regardless of whether or not something further with that person will happen.

In addition, being genuinely faithful is supposed to mean genuine honesty, loyalty, and openness, such as telling your partner things that you are sure they would like to know even if they are not asking about it.  For instance, if you run into your ex partner in public and end up drinking coffee with them. Although this is quite uncomfortable to share, it should be divulged in the best interest of being faithful to your partner.  This doesn’t mean that you are not allowed to like photos on Facebook or Instagram, text other people, or hang out with friends of both sexes; but it means that you cannot do these things deceptively.

Being faithful should mean trying hard to make your partner believe you and not worry about you being unfaithful at all.  In other words, being faithful should mean trying to protect your partner from feeling broken or hurt.  It is of utmost importance to fight off the urge to think that being faithful is simply refraining from having sexual relations from someone other than your partner, or making out with someone other than your significant one.

In order to be genuinely faithful, a person also refrains from becoming romantically intimate with others, aside from physically intimate. As marriage therapist Ana M. Aluisy notes, technology is one of the ways to spark affairs, particularly emotional. “Technology provides a safe place to communicate intimate information with someone other than your partner at a distance,” she told The Daily Dot. “Creating intimate moments with [people] other than your partner can be considered by many like cheating,” she says.

The bottom line is that if the love for your partner is much stronger than your desire to attract other potential partners; being faithful will feel more of a pleasure than a burden.