Have you ever noticed how the society imposes the idea that we will all end up lonely and depressed unless we get married?
But, a psychologist claims that the idea of wedded bliss is nothing but a myth. Being single allows people to “live their best, most authentic and most meaningful life,” she says.
As Bella DePaulo, an eminent psychologist says, that she wanted to challenge the idea that getting married helped people live longer, happier and healthier lives. To do so, she analyzed over 800 academic studies conducted over the past few decades that mentioned single individuals.
“The available findings are telling. For example, research comparing people who have stayed single with those who have stayed married shows that single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience ‘a sense of continued growth and development’ as a person,” said Professor DePaulo, of the University of California, Santa Barbara.
Other studies suggest that single individuals value purposeful work more than married people do… another research of single people found that self-sufficiency is their strength: the more self-sufficient they were, the less likely they were to experience negative emotions. Interestingly, the opposite was true for married individuals.
According to DePaulo, who describes herself as “single, always have been, always will be”, the reasons for the popularity of being single were rarely accepted. She believes that people choose to be single as this allows them to live their most meaningful and most authentic life.
Bottom line is that the conventional idea of “get married, get happier and healthier” is not backed up by science.
As a matter of fact, it turns out that being single is what actually makes you more confident, happy and mentally healthy. Here are the most significant findings DePaollo revealed:
Research comparing people who have stayed single with those who have stayed married shows that single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience ‘a sense of continued growth and development as a person,’” DePaulo wrote.
Single people have stronger bonds with their parents, siblings, neighbors, friends, and coworkers. When they marry, they become more ignorant. So, (gasp!) single people might actually be happier than married couples.
In addition, it turns out that single individuals are healthier as well:
- According to a Canadian study of over 11,000 people, single people reported better overall health than married people.
- A study of more than 30,000 Italians showed that singles had lower rates of cancer compared to those currently married.
- An Australian study of over 10,000 women in their 70s found that lifelong single women without children had the fewest diagnoses of major illnesses.
“I like to say if you like your single life, live it joyfully and apologetically,” DePaulo advised. That’s advice we all can take to the bank, married or not!