If you were looking for a way to improve your relationship, read on. Here are 50 tips on how to make it last:
1. When it comes to happiness, think long-term and short-term
Don’t leave if it doesn’t seem like you will both be happy in the present moment and in the future, but do take measures to increase the chance that you will gain lasting happiness. Not every relationship is meant to work, but it doesn’t mean that you should abandon it prior taking certain measures to improve it.
2. Say” thank you” often
Say it and mean it!
3. Be responsible
Don’t waste time, energy, and money!
4. Be well-mannered
Forget about things like sneezing in person`s face, door-slamming, and yelling.
5. Joke around
When needed and appropriate.
6. Don’t be immature
Don’t make a big deal out of things which are really irrelevant and trivial.
7. Be able to sustain yourself
Even if your partner does the laundry or the cooking, this doesn’t mean that you should stop doing it because it is their job.
8. Send cards and letters to family members and mutual friends
E-mails and e-cards will do the trick.
9. Include your partner`s friends in some parties
Not all of them, but once in a while.
10. Don’t assume your partner ‘ doesn’t need that’ anymore
Never dispose of something that is not yours, whether it is an old receipt or a hockey nest.
11. Maintain healthy hygiene
Things like skipped showers, bad breath, and long toenails are not an option!
12. Take pride in yourself
Don’t be lazy and inefficient just because you are not single anymore.
13. Allow personal time and space
You don’t have to be together 24/7. Everyone needs their personal time and space.
14. Try-on your partner`s shoes
Not literally, but try seeing things from their perspective.
15. Give your partner`s personal intersect a chance
This doesn’t mean that you should like all of the same things, but it is good to have certain things in
16. Respect your partner`s friends
Respect your partner`s company, even if you don’t like them too much.
17. Learn to take hints
Remember what type of partner yours is; some of them want you to be honest about their outfit, for instance, while others don’t.
18. Read often
Reading is a good way to escape reality.
19. Offer compliments
Of course, you need to be genuine about them.
20. Practice equality
Regardless of who is the money-maker or who does most of the chores around the house.
21. Don’t call each other names
Calling each other names like dumbass, idiot, or stupid is extremely detrimental to any relationship.
22. Do more brainstorming than criticizing
Analyzing problems is not a good idea. Focus on the finding solutions instead.
23. Don’t exaggerate
Exaggerating breeds dishonesty.
24. Be tidy
At least keep your socks, towels, and underwear at their place.
25. Keep a “seat down” toilet policy
Simple as that!
26. Don’t beat around the bushes
Be direct as much as possible.
27. Be encouraging
Always convey your genuine emotion and try to encourage your partner as much as possible in order to help them succeed.
28. Keep secrets, but don’t be too secretive
While you don’t need to tell each other literally everything, don’t be secretive neither.
29. Talk about sex
Not just during or after sex.
30. Improve your skills
This will encourage your partner and benefit you at the very least.
31. Keep a “one at a time” washroom policy
Enough said.
32. Surprise
Whether it is a gift or a dinner, surprise is always a good idea.
33. Eliminate negative things
Do things that prevent your partner from cursing or frowning.
34. Do positive things
Do things that will make your partner smile.
35. Don’t track chores
Don’t keep a list of who is doing what and when.
36. Stay fit
Do it personally for yourself.
37. Be aware of yourself
Be aware of your personality traits and try to improve, as needed. Try to be a good person and a good partner.
38. Travel apart
This is a sign of trust, which will result in evolution in your relationship.
39. Travel together
Again, this will result in a growth of your relationship.
40. Maintain personal interests
Being interested in the same things only is not a good idea.
41. Make friends together
Making friends together is a means of bonding with your partner.
42. Have faith in people
Having faith is something, whether it is spiritual or moral, is enough to build trust and improve your relationship.
43. Don’t resist change
A [person] who views the world the same at fifty as [they] did at twenty has wasted thirty years of [their] life.”—Muhammad Ali.
44. Adapt
Adaptation is the key to improvement.
45. Offer uncoditional love
Offer unconditional love to your partner, whether he/ she is having a bad day, a week, or a month.
46. Be forgiving
Whether you are religious or not, try to be as forgiving as possible.
47. Be genuinely forgiving
Don’t forgive if this forgiveness lasts only until the next time your partner disappoints you.
48. Don’t map it out
Nothing goes according to plan in life, so forget about mapping things out.
49. Admit when you are wrong
Do it as it is simply the right thing to do.
50. Celebrate
Anniversaries, promotions … Always find the time to celebrate your important moments.
Sources:
http://irelease.org/the-50-things-you-need-to-do-for-a-relationship-to-last/
https://thoughtcatalog.com/tim-hoch/2014/01/the-50-things-you-need-to-do-for-a-relationship-to-last/